Why I decided to go Natural

Ever since I was a toddler, I had relaxed hair.

My mother said my hair was too thick and too hard for her to manage. She used to say "Don't you want nice hair" and I would get excited and think "YES". So, I would sit in a perm for as long as I could. I would feel my scalp burning and I would still sit there thinking, "the longer it stays in the nicer my hair".

Now I cannot blame my mother, she was brainwashed- Just like half of the black women in this world to believe that beautiful hair is straight, silky, white-looking hair. That was beauty.

So for my entire Childhood, I got my hair relaxed and I had SUPER long hair. It was thick, healthy and gorgeous! My mom took amazing care of my hair (and I just have fabulous genes lol) I will forever be grateful for that.

One day, I got so tired of my mother dictating what I must do to my hair, I told myself, I wanted to take care of my own hair. I must've been about 11 at the time. I didn't ask for any advice I just took over. My hair DIED instantly. It became uneven, dry, with split ends and super short. It was far from healthy. Yet instead of figuring out what I did wrong to it, I just kept fooling around with it hoping it would grow. It never did.

Fast forward to December 2012. I just turned 20, and by now my hair had been all kinds of lengths and colors but it was a lot healthier than before because I was starting to learn how to take care of it.

I was at school, and I went to the salon to get my hair relaxed. I had been to this salon before and my hair come out great so I was not anxious or anything. I relaxed it, and it looked amazing, it was bouncy, shiny I was thrilled. Later on that night, I noticed puss forming at the back of my left ear. I dismissed it as a burn from over-processing (which I now considered the price of beauty) and ignored it. The puss kept on forming for a few days and I became concerned. As I examined it further it hit me.... BITCH BURNED MY EAR. The skin on my ear was literally pealing off! 

On my way to the pharmacy to get burning cream I thought about how intense the relaxer chemical actually is. And from that day on wards I decided to Never Ever relax my hair again!

I decided I was going to find a way to make my natural hair texture (which I have never ever seen before) work because I was going to embrace it.

I decided to research and make my hair the healthiest it could be at all costs! Even if it meant months of bad hair (which is totally fine cuz I have no one to impress cuz I was not looking to date- But that's a whole other blog!). I was prepared to go through it because I wanted to fall in love with my mane. And now as I am starting this blog. In March of 2013, exactly 3 months since my last relaxer, I am super excited to see where my hair Journey will take me and hope all of you will enjoy the ups and downs with me!